Even if your temperaments really don't match, never get divorced, because once you can properly handle the differences in outlook in life, you can make this relationship happy. When encountering problems in daily life, try to avoid blaming the other party and communicate calmly so that you can better handle the problem.
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Men and women are very different in all aspects. After they get together, living under the same roof every day, it is inevitable that they will encounter many things. If the husband and wife have different views, it will also bring some difficulties to the relationship.
Some people say that if a couple does not get along with each other, it is better to divorce early. Continuing to live like that will also be a kind of destruction to each other. Others think that if a couple does not get along with each other and slowly reaches the running-in period, why Do you have to take the step of divorce?
So, should this couple divorce because they have different views? Naturally, divorce cannot be done casually. The reasons are as follows:
1. Divorce often occurs not because you have different views, but because no one is willing to work together for each other.
Everyone has his or her own personality and temperament. As we often say, there are no two identical fallen leaves in this world, and there are no two people with exactly the same temperament.
In coexistence, each has its own advantages and disadvantages. Most people are selfish, especially when they are married. Not many people can think about each other.
The model couples I look forward to are not necessarily because they are lucky to have chosen the right person, but because they have gone through many years of running-in period. They understand each other and cherish each other, so that they can have a lifelong relationship. of happiness.
I remember a short film in which an elderly couple shared the joy of their married life. The key to their eternal happiness is: "Everyone adapts to each other's temperament and accommodates each other."
Yes, one of the keys to keeping a marriage fresh is to accept each other's strengths while allowing each other's shortcomings.
Love must respect you, both parties are independent and interdependent. Only in this way can we overcome countless difficulties together.
As a psychologist once said, "It doesn't matter whether a couple eats the same food or not. The most important thing is that they eat the ingredients they like at the same time and share the benefits of the food with each other. Satisfaction."
2. Many times you can feel that your views are incompatible with each other, but neither of you wants to get to know each other deeply.
Sanmao once said: "Some people's feelings are just a state of mind at that time. If you mistake this state of mind for a long-term relationship, that is your own naivety."
Because love is beautiful and dreamy, but love and marriage are very different. When you move from a relationship to a marriage, you have to deal with and understand the boring and fragmented reality in life.
Perhaps when you are in love, you will see the good qualities of the other person, but not the shortcomings of the other person, because at that time there is only love in your heart.
However, after getting married, I discovered that the other person had so many flaws that I didn’t like, and even his advantages turned into flaws.
After all, love cannot beat daily necessities, nor can it escape the intricate family relationships. In the end, they will divorce because they cannot accept the status quo.
3. Often two people have different views on each other and are too different from each other, either too strong or too strong.
If husband and wife are too different, it will be difficult for them to stay married for a long time, especially for strong women.
In daily life, more and more working women choose to live alone after their marriages break up. In fact, they can get everything themselves. Why do they want to wrong themselves by entering an uncertain married life?
So many couples often have different views on each other, which is also related to the huge differences between them.
You can see this by looking at couples in the entertainment industry. It is precisely because they are too strong and have many escape routes that their relationships are very prone to problems.
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Even if your temperaments really don’t match, never get divorced, because once you can properly handle the incompatibility in your life, you can make this relationship happy. .
1. Understand the other party more and blame the other party less.
Husbands and wives should understand each other’s personalities separately. Different personalities have different shortcomings and advantages. If a couple still insists on their own opinions when encountering things and fails to listen to each other's suggestions, conflicts will definitely arise and make the other party feel bored.
So, when something happens, try to avoid blaming the other party and communicate calmly so that you can better handle the problem.
2. Don’t be too domineering and always listen to you.
Even if the other person loves you again, we are still two people and we cannot be too domineering towards our significant other. It's all up to you to decide, which can lead to more disagreements between you and even pull me away from you.
3. When encountering something, put yourself in the other person’s shoes.
No matter how big the differences are, we need to change our thinking. If you were the other person and saw your other half being so domineering and unreasonable, what would you do?
If you want this unpleasant thing to end as soon as possible, why not show it to the other person like the other person does? I believe the other person will feel guilty when they see what you just looked like.
Fourth, learn to give the other party a certain amount of space.
When couples are together, they don’t necessarily have to have the same steps and the same thoughts. You feel that you can have more common topics, but such nuanced regulations will make you feel tired.
So, learning to give each other a certain amount of space appropriately will only make married life easier.
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Marriage is a kind of knowledge. After all, it is a university degree, so it needs to be learned and explored step by step in marriage.
However, if you can get married in this life, you must be more diligent in your marriage.Cherish each other.
In fact, if you think about it carefully, it is not shameful to give in to the one you love. If you really lose your loved one because of some trivial matters in life, it will be a lifelong regret.
