When you are in love, everyone wants to find someone they like. It doesn’t seem to matter whether the other person likes you or not. I feel that only in this way can there be passion, otherwise it is better not to talk. But if you are planning to get married, should you marry someone you like or someone who likes you? If you find someone you like but doesn't like you, it will be too difficult to stay in such a marriage.
Let me tell you my answer first: to get married, you must not only find someone you like, but also find someone who likes you.
1. Marriage can’t just be done
No matter how you two met or how you got together, when you get to the point of getting married, you really need to think that the other person is you from the bottom of your heart. Someone you must marry or marry.
Because love is really too precious in this era. Just for two people to like each other from the bottom of their hearts, they need to pay a lot for each other. Therefore, if one party is unwilling to go both ways, then love will become fragile.
I have heard this saying: "People who marry for love are very happy, but those who lose to reality are mostly helpless." It is really not easy to meet love in your life. If you choose to marry or marry someone, love must be a necessity. Otherwise, you will be very picky if the other person does not suit your liking at all.
Sometimes I always feel that as long as one party likes it, the two of them can just make do with each other. Now I know that there is no standard answer to the correct view of love, only reference answers. As we age and experience, things we think are right will always change.
I used to think that loving someone means giving everything you have to them, loving someone with all your heart, and pursuing someone. People, but when you suffer setbacks again and again, you will find that relationships need to go in both directions. No matter how much you give, if the other party doesn't like you, it will be useless no matter how much you do.
Later, when you meet someone again, it seems that anyone can do it, but it seems that no one can do it. You thought you would not be tempted again, and you would not love as hard as before, but when this person After she appeared, all your rules and regulations were broken. She was very good to you and liked you. She felt that love was coming and I should be able to get love this time.
But the facts hit you again. When you are on the verge of getting married, your two families have become the biggest obstacle. The person who originally loved you will become so realistic that you don’t even know him. .
Of course, you marry someone you don’t seem to like that much, but you have similar views, experiences, and family backgrounds. You are very suitable in every aspect and can live very comfortably.
There is no fixed answer to the so-called correct view of love, but one day you meet someone, you want to fall in love with her, you want to marry her, and when you can put down all your defenses in front of her, That means you've met the right person.
2. In marriage, we should encourage each other and understand each other
I heard a story before. A boy bought a very ordinary car to pick up his girlfriend, thinking that her girlfriend would laugh at her. But what the girl did was smile and say to the boy: "Honey, you are great. You can buy a car on your own at such a young age."
This sentence touched the boy's heart. Later, after they got married, the boy's career became better and better, and their relationship was stronger than love.
It can be seen that it is really important to encourage each other in love. Don’t underestimate a word. Sometimes just such a word of encouragement is the best encouragement to the other person.
A truly long-lasting relationship is to be able to respect the other person from the bottom of your heart. It can also be said that in a relationship, if there is no mutual encouragement and the other half does not even have the desire to share, such a relationship will come to an end sooner or later.
In fact, whether you are married or not, understanding is more important than love. Love means standing in one's own perspective and caring about the other person from one's own perspective, but understanding what the other person wants means standing in the other person's perspective.
In fact, many times, we think that love is to give the other person a better material life, and that we will be satisfied with whatever the other person likes. It is love, but to truly live together, what is needed is understanding and support.
In addition, understanding should be based on communication, rather than thinking that you love the other person from your own perspective. In love, many couples who have problems lack communication most. They all think that meeting each other's needs is love. However, when problems arise, you will find that two people do not understand each other even if they have lived together for a long time.
Therefore, whether it is love or marriage, understanding is more important than love. If you can communicate more, communicate more. After all, sometimes you think you understand the other party, but as soon as you communicate, all problems will arise.
